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What is holding you back?

9 May

I have successfully avoided taking statistics for most of my adult life.

But now, the time has come and I must succumb.
So, I will take a stats class the same way one takes wheat grass: quickly, because it is good for you. For a chaser I will do something I love to do to reward myself for putting up with myself for the duration of the stats class, like finally get my blog posts up and making them public.
As a result of my own misery I would like you to put yourself through something miserable as well.

This sounds counter to most career advice: Do what you love!  Do What You Are! (a great book), follow your passion, it will energize you and make you a millionaire..

Instead I am suggesting you do something you dislike, that is hard for you, that you generally avoid. I am just not telling you to do this for a living.

This is also known as: working on your weakness, which is something most thinking, warm blooded creatures avoid.  For some of you this may mean taking a warm and fuzzy class like: Learning to Speak the Language of Compassion, or Making Hot Soups on a Cold Day.

But more likely if you are a: ‘ right brain, creative, follow your passion no matter how unrealistic it is type’, which is often typified by the ENFP, a class in Advanced Excel may be just what the doctor ordered.
Often the one thing that stands between us and our desired career or life is that one area of weakness or rather that one thing we avoid.

In doing career coaching for diverse clients I have noticed that for each person there is often one area that is keeping them stuck. For some, we get stuck when we come across the ‘unfun’ stuff. These are the detailed, mundane, banal tasks that all projects eventually require.

We may feel like we are abandoning ourselves when faced with tasks that make us uncomfortable, this feels like we are abandoning our dream and this is the greatest horror of all for some of us.

For my more rational clients, say an ISTJ type, sometimes their ‘stuck place’, is allowing themselves to take a risk in to the irrational- the emotional and the nontraditional space that is also required to move forward in pursuit of their creative visions.

We are out of our comfort zone. And yes, this is where the magic does happen.
Sometimes, or maybe almost alwayswe need to do things that are uncomfortable to create the type of life that we want.
Thought for the day:
Do something you avoid, it may make you a lot happier.